From grief to grief counsellor
My professional life as a psychologist and grief counsellor took off in my forties, and since then I have not looked back. My original training as a nurse and health visitor have also proved a useful backdrop. More recently, I explored shamanic studies, which in 2005, culminated in a visit to an indigenous tribe in Ecuador. The indigenous view grieving as a sacred rite of passage, and the person in grief is honoured and supported throughout their process. Looking back I can’t help wondering if I was being prepared for the work I am now doing.
In 2013, after my daughter died, my professional life went on hold. I had nothing to give. I grieved for her, at times not wanting to be in life. Writing my book ‘In Search of You’ to her proved enormously cathartic. It’s not about being a good writer. It’s more about getting things off your chest. And in the process I discovered that there was light at the end of the tunnel.
It’s probably no surprise that I now specialise in the field of bereavement. I find my work as a grief counsellor both deeply satisfying and invariably a privilege. We have so little practice in coping with loss and grief, be it our own or someone else’s, that it is perhaps no wonder we tread nervously around it. However, there is a way through grief, and having the right support in place is invaluable, indeed I would argue essential.
I live in Nailsworth, Gloucestershire and run my private practice providing bereavement support from home. Since my work is classified as educational and therapeutic I am able to continue to do this.